My first Post

I do not know who will end up reading this stuff, or if anyone will.  It is OK by me if they do, otherwise why would I write it?  Being an aspie is like living in the same world everyone else does, but covered in cling wrap.  I do not know how else to describe it.  Some people live with it just fine, others don’t.  I am OK sometimes, sometimes it gets so bad, you know?  Like I have to break through a wall of bullet-proof glass just to get a crevice in which I can send messages through, or get a clear idea of what “people mean”. I have heard people say there is nothing wrong at all.  Laziness, nerdiness, lack of desire to be anything but self-centered.  I wish this was all true.  I wish I could say I was self-centered and selfish and that I offend people or do and say thoughtless things because I want to be hurtful or do not care enough to listen.  I wish one-sided conversations where a matter of me just liking hear myself talk.  I have questions and I do not want them to be taken as whines or complains.  They are mostly simple and I made this blog as an experiment.  I want to see the answers I get, I want to understand, you know?

So, here is my first question: Whats the deal of tones of voice?

I misunderstand them a lot.  My best friend, I have known for 7 years and I have lived with her this long.  And to this day I cannot tell if she is being inquisitive, acusatorial, mad or happy or sarcastic.  Sometimes she jokes around with me and I get it all wrong and get upset and then in turn she gets upset because I am exagerating, or acting as if I am being attacked.  Do I not know her enough by now?  To non aspies of the world, how do you deal with different tones of voice and from you aspies of the world . . . do you ever really get to know someone enough that you can just recognize their tone of voice?  Should I work harder?  Advice is very welcome!